Lively. A word which once simply meant full of life and energy. A word which has become a euphemism for not sitting still, not listening and wreaking havoc in small spaces while everyone else sits nicely. A word which is applied regularly to Raffie’s music club.
Every week we start with great expectations, but every week I have to take Raffie out to calm down. Every week I spend most of the deceptively short 45 minutes picking him up and putting him back on his cushion. Every week, he is ‘lively’.
But not this week.
It might have taken the best part of a year but this time his lovely, and boundlessly enthusiastic teacher, suggested that it might be an idea to try leaving him on his own. We agreed to try next week, only for me to be told (by Raffie) in no uncertain terms to go. He didn’t even say goodbye.
So, reluctant to leave the building in case of a mammoth meltdown, I bimbled aimlessly around the corridor. Every now and then I peered through the glass to see Raffie not only sitting down, but joining in and listening. Not one of us, teacher, the other parents, and especially me could believe it, but it was true.
“I listened Mummy” he said as we got outside “and they said I did really well.”
Whether it was a fluke, or whether it was the future, it was certainly a revelation. We persevered for so long because music club is great, he gets to play with different instruments, learn new songs and then practice them at home.
So it may have been a small step, but it’s a step in the right direction. And hopefully we next week we can be the right kind of lively, and keep hitting the right note.
Fabulous! I think they often surprise us if we allow them a bit of freedom. Perhaps this is what I need to do with my little girl… 🙂 #MagicMoments
Hello there, yes I do hover about a lot because of being ‘lively’, but he generally tends to behave better for other people! We will of course see how this week goes…! x
I find that with my ‘lively’ little boy that if I’m not there he doesn’t tend to be quite so ‘lively’. Fingers crossed that this is the future for you and not just a fluke!
Hello there, you are so right! Thanks so much, we’ll see how he gets on in the morning! x
How did he get on today?
Hello there! Thank you for asking-not as well as last week but it could have been worse, he was very tired so we are persevering, he had a great time though! x
Glad he had a good time!! xx
Thank you! x
It sounds like one giant leap in the direction of independance and learning. I hope you can keep the momentum up.
Thank you, we are keeping everything crossed as he gets a lot more out of things if he can focus for a bit! x
Oh, well done! I hope that it works in the future too! #magicmoments
Thanks so much, we certainly hope so, luckily the teacher is really patient! x
Aww well done Raffie, small but positive steps! My son and daughter can be little monkeys when at home with me but listen to their teachers/nursery assistants they are the complete angels who listen and never play up. I think maybe it’s better that way though, thank you for linking up to #magicmoments.
Thank you, yes you are right, and he is the same but as you say it could be worse! And thank you for having me, looking forward to joining up next week x
Wow that’s a brilliant step – well done Raffie and hope this continues to work for you 🙂
Ah, thank you! All will be revealed tomorrow-he says he wants to go on his own because he likes the peace and quiet, so that’s me told! Hope you have a good weekend. x
Brilliant, well done to Raffie! I have ‘lively’ children, fun and energetic and totally exhausting! x
Thank you so much-yes I quite agree! And at least there’s never a dull moment! x
This is really fantastic and I know how you must feel as we too experience ‘lively’. The classes sound like lots of fun I really hope his new listening mode continues for you.
Thanks for linking up with Small Steps Amazing Achievements :0)
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Thanks Jane, it wasn’t too bad this week but I think we could do with some more listening-then again who couldn’t?! Thanks for having me, looking forward to seeing you later in the week xx
This is fantastic. All it takes is a little freedom sometimes and they can really blow us away. thank you so much for linking up to Share With Me. I hope to see you again tomorrow for another great week. #sharewithme
Aww bless him! I always look forward to reading Raffie updates. It must have been hard to walk away but well done to both of you 🙂 #SSAmazingAchievements
Oh thank you that’s really kind, thank you yes we are hoping it will continue to improve, slowly but surely! xx